10 reasons men flirt
Filed Under: Lifestyle, World | Posted: 06/10/2012 at 4:54AM
Comments | Region: Nigeria
10 reasons men flirt
By Emmanuel Udom
Men love sex and so do women. It is natural, legitimate and acceptable. But, the question is, what will make a man jilt his lover for another woman outside? This is a question I will attempt to answer in this my write-up today.
If the issue of love, relationship and marriage could be easily resolved, the world will become one peaceful, united and harmonious planet. So, if a man walks out of his woman, both of them should be blamed, since it takes two to tango. Introspection or looking inward will give the couple an idea, why the marriage failed.
Here are some of the likely reasons a man will take a walk and jilt his woman for another one outside.
Men love sex and expect it quite often from their women. It is good to create intimacy through having regular and healthy sexual life with your couple. But, research and observation have shown that sex alone is not enough criteria for success in relationship or marriage.
It appears that men are naturally more demanding when it comes to sex. They are flirt and will want to explore, so to say more women for sexual fulfillment. In developing countries like Nigeria, our culture and tradition favour the men. Men are allowed by these restricted and oppressive cultures to sleep with all sorts of women, while it is a taboo among women
Some men are so randy that no matter how sexually active their women are, they will still look out for another one. Time and the character of the woman at home have ways of bringing back the randy man.
When a woman is too demanding, it has a way of driving the man outside. In Africa, Nigeria, where the poverty level is on the high side, most women depend on their men for survival. If not checked, this could lead to control, constant disagreement and quarrel, which could eventually lead to a breakdown of the marriage.
I therefore suggest that before marriage, the man and the woman should empower themselves financially through work or business to face marital challenges, otherwise the man could sooner than later look outside
Some African men are really not responsible. They want to eat their cake and have it at the same time. These men simply sleep with all sorts of women and will fail to carry out their marital responsibilities to their children, the products of their union with the opposite sex. Marriage is really about responsibility, love, commitment, devotion etc. But, some of our men could look for excuses to bolt out of marriage, so as to avoid taking care of their families
Some women actually drive their men outside, when they use sex as weapon of blackmail and control. This is common to Nigeria, where a woman will demand for money from her man. Unable to get the money at that particular time, she could stop her man from having sex with her. As a female colleagues of mine once said, any woman that deny her man sex is looking for problem in her relationship or marriage, as the man will simply look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction
It takes discipline and devotion to look good, clean and ready for your man. This is applicable to both the man and the woman. Take you bath regularly, brush you teeth often, wash your undies and clothes and use good perfumes with good smell. In addition to keeping you body clean and acceptable, keep your home and the surrounding environment clean also.
If you are a career woman, employ housemaids and keep closer taps on them, when you are back from work. With these, the home will be good enough for your man.
When it comes to nagging, some African or Nigerian women are adepts. They could nag from morning still evening, complaining, causing, criticizing and getting angry with trivial issues. These have ways of driving their men with their girlfriend to the nearest beer parlor, where they end up at the nearest hotel or guest house.
Nagging is an inappropriate way of women looking for attention from their men. Women, as you know are emotional beings. They love attention, pampering, communication and love. Yes, these are legitimate and acceptable. But, in trying to draw the attention of their men to some issues, important or trivial, most women could nag their men and force him outside
Amara Blessing Nwosu, my friend on facebook said that if nobody comes to ask for the hand of a woman, who is 30 years old in Nigeria for marriage, then she should check her character, instead of blaming God or her real and imaginary enemies for still being single. She is dead right here. Some ladies are not trained. They talk and behave anyhow-insulting and abusing people, looking down and others, gossiping etc. Men are really not angels, but most ladies talk before they think on the results of their words. You do not have to agree with this, but spare some minutes and reflect on this.
Most of the problems of this world could be amicably resolved through dialogue, marriage inclusive. Since nobody on this earth is perfect, communication has a way of making us listen to the views and opinions of others, which may or may not agree with our own. Some ladies and men, who keep malice with each other, are working against their relationship or marriage. Sooner, if this issue is not sorted out, the marriage will hit the rock.
Forgive your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband and there will be peace and tolerance eventually in the world. If you as a lady fails to forgive your man, knowing fully well that you are not perfect also, the children will suffer, when the marriage crash. The man on the other hand will begin to look out for another younger woman, leaving you that have gone pass your menopause age to suffer the emotional pains.
Love is universal and natural. You will know that person that truly and honestly love you, beyond sweet talks, handsome or beautiful face, financial and social status and academic qualifications. The love that will stand the test of time begins from true friendship and eventually graduates to marriage. Very few men could walk out of their marriage, if it was built on true friendship, nurtured by genuine love, mutual respect, strong bond of communication and openness