Why people may have one night stands? People who search for a partner for one-night stands may be searching for love that they never received as a child and they find themselves desiring attentions and looking for love in all the wrong places. This is solely my opinion and not from a professionals analysis, statements or standpoint.
Many people who constantly feel unloved did not have the cuddling and expressing of love by their parents; and their sibling’s never showed any type of affections either because they too didn’t know how to express love because they had never experienced it either. I know that my parents didn’t show a lot of love either because there was a large family and there was always too many chores to do and young babies to care for. I understood this as a child but that didn’t help my need for love and attention either. When a child doesn’t get love expressed in some ways, they end up soaking it up and trying to live with it.
It is my belief that people who suffer from the lack of self-confidence, self-esteem, self-control and a good self-image often have one night stands in an effort to fill a void they have in their life. I may be wrong but when a person has never felt loved, comforted, security and given compassion, they’ll seek it throughout their life. These people may have a deep-seated problem because of having been rejected and not shown the proper amount of love from a parent in their childhood; and they seek to find love and contentment through one-night sexual affairs.
There are many people in this world who have never been shown any sort of love in their lives and they don’t know how to express or feel “real” love. They also find they cannot express their love to others either. I know that I’m not a person to shower someone with a lot of loving attentions because it’s not in my make-up and I do believe it’s because of a lack of attention as a child. Throughout my life I’ve strived to display love and concern to my children and to express love through my expressions and displays of love.
This wasn’t the fault of my parents but the fault of having too many children to love and not enough time to share it with everyone. I knew my parents loved me dearly but many nights I would desire just a touch or a kiss on my brow to grant me security and leaving me with a feeling of being loved. My Mother was exhausted from daily chores and nursing babies and I’m sure it wasn’t intentional, she had a job to do, and I’m often amazed at the amount of work they both accomplished.
Many children have never known the enjoyment of sitting on their parent’s laps and being cuddled and loved by them and many times this causes a child to feel unloved and unwanted; and they often wonder why they’re missing out on this type of love from their parents. It can leave a child in a mental state of having a mixed feeling about expressing love also receiving it.
People looking for one night stands are definitely looking for some sort of affections that they never experienced in their life. These people may have a misconception that it is getting the satisfaction through sexual contact and relief but then they find they don’t feel a closeness once the encounter is over and they’ll go looking for the love of another one night stand, and another. This can often cause them to thirst for love on a constant basis and cause havoc in their life.
There are people in our society who have been shunned and omitted from social groups of friends and they too find one night stands to satisfy their needs to have a friend. There are also people who continually desire one night stands because a new sexual encounter is exciting, lets them live on the edge, is romantic and new and they feel it fulfills them; and then you have both sexes who enjoy changing partners as they feel a “new” lust and excitement from being with a new partner.
One night stands can be hazardous to your health and a person could end up with a venereal disease or HIV. It’s hard for me to figure out people who desire to live on the edge and give of themselves to a stranger for sexual satisfaction. It’s my opinion a person is looking for something they desperately need to fulfill their life as they do this; and it’s not what they want but it’s a craving to satisfy a feeling of being unloved.
Barbara Kasey Smith is the writer of this article and it is based upon her own opinion. Barbara’s New Book Titled Jailbait is available through lulu.com; Amazon.com & Barnes & Noble.com.