We’ve all lived it- that dreaded morning after feeling waking up to someone you barely knew on the opposite side of the bed and looking at the evidence of last night’s activity spread out through the room. For women the agony lies within having to wake up next to a man she barely knew or even remembered his name after having too much to drink. Hooking up with someone the first time drunk is NEVER a good idea if you’re looking for a serious, long-term relationship. If someone can remember the sexual position you were in, but not remember your name, and that’s not good if you’re hoping for more. Some men do love a good chase of what they can’t have, but if they can talk a girl out of her panties after a few martinis she’s clearly way too easy. There’s also the risk and chances of catching an STD from unprotected sex or getting pregnant.
Alcohol impairs judgment and most people who had too much to drink are not aware of the fact that they don’t know the history of the person they had sex with since not everyone is honest about their history of whether they’re contagious with an STD or was recently treated for one. Alcohol also lowers your inhibitions making you vulnerable to things you may end up regretting later on. Rarely, anything serious really comes out of a one-night stand when alcohol is involved because what respectable person thinks they can get to know you by sexual means? The problem is that sex in today’s day and age is treated like a handshake and doesn’t mean anything. It’s enough that men and women view and react to sex differently. Women tend to be more emotional and psychologically connected whereas men are more physical and psychologically connected. For what it really means getting drunk and having a one-night stand does not improve your chances of a serious relationship. If the person you had a one-night stand with only contacts you for sex then you clearly see that the person could careless unless you’re giving them some. Any respectable man or woman will not allow themselves to be regulated to booty call status and that a real relationship is much more than just sex, it’s about connecting to someone on the mental level and getting to know what makes someone who they are since you can only take the physical things so far before it becomes repetitive.
Women have to understand that sex shouldn’t be used to keep someone around or to hold on to a relationship and men can’t use sex to control someone either and that relationships take time to grow and develop and that individuals have interests and hobbies that are worth exploring. A sexual encounter doesn’t always guarantee a true and real relationship, the way to a real deal is to get to know someone outside the bedroom and let sex be something you do with someone you care about and who you intend to be with on a long term basis.
The 4 kinds of men to stay clear of dating:
The Mama’s Boy-This guy probably lives near or with his mother. She will have helped him pick out everything from what he wears to what he eats and you’ll find out by how clean his house is when mom comes over to clean up and does his laundry.
Why you should steer clear: You’ll never live up to mom’s expectations and even though he will love and value you always he will take his mother’s side every time.
Steps to get rid of him: Tell him that three’s a crowd and that mom is getting in the way.
The Bodybuilder ‘aka’ Gym Rat-This guy will have excessive photos of himself on every available space including sites like Facebook and MySpace, his own home gym and even resorting to snapping a good percentage of his pics in the bathroom in front of a mirror or in a room of him flexing his muscles (even though he’s a perpetual member of the trendy gym in town). He’s equipped with the latest gadgets and home entertainment system. His idols are Arnold Schwartzenegger and Jon Cena from the WWE.
Why you should steer clear: He’s always at the gym and will spend more time in the bathroom than you. Plus he always has no time to date, but will “show up” to something with a girlfriend or spends 4-5 hours at the gym 5 days a week. If he lives for admiring himself like Vanity Smurf then you know you need run and don’t look back because most women don’t spend that much time in the bathroom admiring themselves.
Steps to get rid of him: Tell him to give up the gym and get a life
The Womanizer ‘aka’ the Player-This guy will treat you like a queen and is the perfect man. He dresses well and is out to impress any and every woman he comes in contact with. He will have difficulty remembering your name since he’s so busy balancing out the time he gives to you and other women.
Why you should steer clear: He’s always got a pathetic excuse for something and you’ll be competing with his cell phone and other women for his time and you’re just one of many women he’s busy bouncing back and forth with.
Steps to get rid of him: Delete his number from your cell phone and his email address from your online address book. When you don’t give a womanizer any of your time he’ll be free to sweat the women he’s giving a lot of his time to. Start putting more time into other things and the womanizer will move on to someone else he can play games with since he realizes you’re on to his game.
The Workaholic ‘aka’ Mr. I have no life-This man is going places, but will he take you along for the adventure? He’s intelligently dressed, has good taste and eats at some of the best restaurants around, but he’s married to his job and career.
Why you should steer clear: You have to make an appointment to see him like he’s the doctor and you’re the patient. He will take you out then ditches you to converse with total strangers while he’s busy using time to talk business on his phone or sending messages back and forth on the Blackberry.
Steps to get rid of him: Tell him that you are taking advantage of getting a life and divorcing your attachment to the JOB.
Don’t forget that it’s not just men, but you got some women that men should steer clear of as well in dating and there’s 4 types to consider. Women are being told to watch for certain kinds of men and there are some men who need to watch the types of women they’re dating as well. When you mix unprotected sex, alcohol, and drugs the combination doesn’t look very good and can be extremely dangerous.
The 4 kinds of women to stay clear of dating:
The Daddy’s Girl-This woman probably lives either with or near her father. He would have spoiled her rotten to the point that if something isn’t her way she’s not a happy camper.
Why you should stay clear: You have to meet specific criteria that reminds this girl of her father which can sometimes be unrealistic and shallow. Most women who appreciate a good man would value character and maturity over what he can bring or give her. Most daddy’s girls are also very immature which can make dating extremely difficult for some men when you’re having to compete against daddy to win her affection.
Steps to get rid of her: Tell her you’re not competing against her father just to win her approval and that you’re into women who are level headed and realistic and are not shallow characters.
The High Maintenance Girl-This woman has expensive taste to the point that if you don’t make a certain amount of money, driving an expensive luxury car, or has a high profile job she wants nothing to do with you.
Why you should stay clear: You have to put up with her incessant suggestions on how to dress, what kind of car would be best for you to drive and generally trying to change you to her liking. A man who’s comfortable with himself will not tailor his way of life to please a woman who lives for improving image for the sake of showing off to people.
Steps to get rid of her: Essentially being yourself will annoy her because that gives her incentive to continue trying to change you to her liking. No man should have to put on an act to be in good with a woman, as they say being true to yourself is the best way to win someone’s heart.
The Needy Clingy Girl-This woman is so attention deprived that she lives for smothering others or doing things in attempt to fill in voids in her life. She will mostly cling on to men who treat her good and what some men aren’t aware of is that needy women are extremely bossy and demanding and expect compliance in what they want and it’s got to be their way or no way.
Why you should stay clear: Clingy and needy women are walking time bombs because their behavior hurts friendships and relationships because they’re self centered, selfish, self-indulged in their own little world and are not really too concerned or considerate of others when it comes to other people’s needs and wants. You’ll also notice that they’re drama queens and will even create situations to bring drama to make their life more exciting when they can BS around and essentially lie about things
Steps to get rid of her: Stop returning phone calls and emails, eventually the empty feeling sets in and she catches a clue to when people don’t want to be bothered with someone who is a drama queen and makes up situations to make it more exciting if their lives are boring and dull. When they get dumped they treat it as an oh-well-he’s had-his chance-and-I-know-I’m all that-and-a-bag-of-chips type of deal when in reality this type of woman doesn’t know that she’s just good for a booty call since their neediness is their weakness and guys who use women prey on that using them for whatever they can get their hands on and then tossing them out like a pair of worn out underwear. Be honest and real since clingy women are not good at hearing the truth about themselves and will resort to harassing a guy if they get hurt when they set themselves up to get hurt.
If you take the time to get to know someone you would see that it’s a lot more different when you’re sober and aware of your surroundings. In all honesty you won’t find a relationship out of a one night stand because a real man or woman will respect you more when you’re actually dating and taking the time to get to know you a lot better. Alcohol can cause a lot more problems than many think and it’s not something to take lightly especially if you are a woman since women have been sexually assaulted when they’ve had too much to drink and are not aware of their surroundings. Plus you’re putting yourself at risk for dangerous reprecussions such as sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies. So if you want to get to know someone better it’s ideal to do it sober because there’s a big difference between making a fool out of yourself or someone respecting you when you’re able to hold an intelligent conversation.