CHEATERS
Cheating is becoming a common phenomenon.
One of the worst heartaches comes from being cheated on by someone you have
invested all your trust, energy and compassion in. When a partner says, “I can’t explain
why I did it, there was no reason for it,” it means that they cheated because they simply
weren’t happy in the relationship and feel as though they are lacking in some part of it.
But for what reasons would someone enter a meaningless hook-up when they already
have a stable romance?
From an outside perspective it is uncalled for — so what is going through the mind of a
cheater? There are always underlying factors that have unfortunately not been
communicated and have managed to cause a disturbance.
Lack of Communication :
Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel
when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it’s the sex or the time spent
together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and it is making one person in the
relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before
you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.
Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is a main
factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.
Different Views :
When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they
ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner
might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid
indicator of cheating tendencies.
In reality, if someone doesn’t have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn’t be
in one. Such feelings only lead to infidelity and heartbreak.
Lack of Effort :
While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on
trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a
relationship work and when the effort in a relationship is on one partner’s behalf to
rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.
It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the
relationship to be successful. If this doesn’t happen, one might cheat to find the
romance they secretly desire.
Revenge :
If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow.
When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too.
Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has
become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such
complications. Of course this doesn’t accomplish anything and is simply a waste of time.
State of Mind :
Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do
something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this
is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the
lack of trust and commitment relationships would have.
However intoxicated an individual might be, they must still think before they act and in
this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can’t do this then
they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.
Happiness is key to live life.
You live, you love, you learn, and when it comes down to it, when you have found
someone who makes you genuinely happy, you will not cheat. Of course, there is no
such thing as the perfectly happy couple, but once you’ve found someone who you trust
and can’t imagine hurting, cheating will not cross your train of thought because what
else could you possibly be searching for?
Cheating is a sign that you either don’t want to be committed to that person or
something is missing in your current love life that you think is only possible to find
elsewhere.
-DR.NAVRAJ SINGH SANDHU
-P.A.H.S.-1
-www.navraj@gmail.com
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