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Generally speaking, humans rely on being social, and maintaining a collective atmosphere. In most cases, it gives us the opportunity to unwind, but most importantly, it creates a sense of companionship. In other words, it makes us feel a part of a bigger group in this ginormous and at times, cruel world. So what happens if you run into someone who doesn’t want to be social? Well, you just simply have to work with that person if you’re up for the challenge. To emphasize, expose that person to all the different resources around them and guide them towards getting help if needed.
Now, although the answer may seem simple, the process is in fact, a lot more complex. Addicts for example, typically prefer to be left alone when participating in any form of substance abuse. The isolation reassures them that no one will catch them, and it also leaves little room for them to be judged by others. Although this may seem logical, it doesn’t make the situation better under any circumstance. Having a social life is important and is essential to every aspect of our health.
“Why is fellowship important, and how does it affect me?” you ask.
Well, research shows that people who are socially isolated are more likely to use drugs and alcohol. On the other hand, people who are heavy drug users are more likely to be social outcasts, according to the 2012 study in Journal of Health and Social Behavior.
This means that for individuals who prefer being left alone, or experience a hard time making friends; fellowship helps creates a support group. One that not only encourages people to come out of their comfort zone, but one that even assist addicts struggling to get their life back on track without dealing with the harsh judgment from loved ones. You see in our society today, social ties are slowly becoming a thing of the past. Meaning that face-to-face interaction has been pushed pretty far down on our “to-do” list, and has begun losing its value.
The good news is, not all hope is lost. According to Stanford University, studies indicate that “social capital” is one of the biggest predictors for health, happiness, and longevity. The problem is, however, with everything going on today we often don’t recognize the importance of social connections. We live in a culture that’s so focused on hard work, success, and wealth that we don’t even set time aside to interact with others. Something as simple as talking to your co-workers, or chatting with someone while you wait in line can go a long way and have a positive outcome on your physiological health.
Other Benefits Fellowship Can Offer
- Increase your sense of belonging and purpose.
- Boost your happiness and reduce stress.
- Help you cope with traumas, such as addictions, divorce, and serious illness.
- It also encourages you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle choices and habits, such as drinking or drug abuse.
Things to Keep in Mind If You’re Struggling to Make Friends
The number one reason most adults struggle to make new friends all comes down to priority. As was mentioned earlier, our society focuses so much on being successful that we’ve begun prioritizing things differently. For some adults, it’s hard to develop new relationships when you have kids, work, and have people to take care of; causing you and your loved ones to grow apart.
Trying to develop and maintain a friendship can be tiresome, and takes a lot of effort. In the long run, however, the investment will be worthwhile.
Loneliness is a prime relapse trigger. If you recognize signs for the company of others, take action and make it point to build a foundation for a better social life.
The Twelfth Move
Having a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, and practice these principles in all your affairs in order to restore yourself, and build a communal environment.
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Thank you again for taking time out your day to read my article. I would like to know, what are some things you’ve struggled with in your social life? I’ll be checking for comments, so feel free to express your thoughts on today’s article.
Sources:
- https://www.southuniversity.edu/whoweare/newsroom/blog/why-being-social-is-good-for-you
- http://www.ohioarc.com/importance-of-fellowship-sobriety/
- https://bewell.stanford.edu/features/social-ties-good-health
- http://hsb.sagepub.com/
- http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860