Opinion from Barbara Kasey Smith’s Corner of the World:
Divorce can cause havoc in a person’s life and when children are involved it can be worse for them. A wife/husband must come to a realization she/he has to walk out of a marriage when there’s cheating, abuse, and mental torture. The longer a person stays in the marriage, the more pain and suffering they’ll have to endure. People who do not leave a bad marriage ends up losing their self-respect, self-confidence, self-esteem, and they’ll end up dying a little every day and being left with a troubled mind.
When there are children in a marriage, it’s hard to give up on it because the parent tries to hold it together for the sack of their children. It’s hard for children to come to a point where they will want a parent to leave or get a divorce. Children love their parents regardless of what a parent does and they do not want their parents to separate or divorce.
It’s important that a parent not allow their children to sway their decision to end their marriage. Take note, cruelty in a marriage rarely ever stops, and it does affect children. A lack of a decision to end a marriage can have serious adverse effects for children. Children watches and hears more than parents realize; rest assured, they’re aware a parent is suffering from beatings, cheating, lying, mental abuse, and various types of mistreatments. It’s not a secret to them because it’s hidden within to trigger anxiety.
Children try to hide their feelings from their parent’s, this festers in their minds and causes hate and resentment to build-up until the children begin to lash out. This also causes them to have a lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, the inability to express love and concern for others, and the inability to trust other people.
A woman/man who is in a marriage and knows it will never last, needs to accept it and move on with their life. A decision for a parent to remain only equals punishment and loss of self-worth for the person receiving the abuse.
If you’re a woman/man who is suffering through a rough marriage, it’s time to take an analysis of the situation before there’s a major breakdown of the situation. When a person comes to the conclusion the marriage will never work, walk away, and seek the advice of a counselor and a lawyer.
Let go of all of the hurt and pain harbored within and face your next steps with a feeling of having freedom. Go and celebrate the feelings of being free from daily aggravations, wrong-doings, dishonesty, cheating, abuse, and misfortunes suffered during the marriage.
Once a person walks away from mistreatment and abuse, they’ll regain their self-confidence and self-esteem and be able to move on in their life. They’ll see there is healing at the end of their dark tunnel.
Barbara Kasey Smith is the writer of this article; it is her sole opinion. Copyright 2012.