How a child feels when no love is expressed!
*Do you express love to your children?:
Did you ever wondered about your parents love for you? Did you “think” they loved you but didn’t have the time to “stop” and “embrace” you with a hug or a kiss or to wipe a tear from your eyes or to say, “I love you?” Allow me to say, “It’s hurtful and it stings to the core of the soul and it scars a mind too.”
Years ago, many young children felt unloved and unwanted because their parents were overloaded with work and chores and there was “no” time to caress or express any form of love for their children. In most families, there was one or two years difference between their children’s ages and the majority of families had at least eight to ten children. Mother’s were breast feeding one baby while diapering another baby. Look, this was how it was and there wasn’t a thing a person could do about it…this was a way of life. There was no love expressed there, only an assumption.
*Parents need to express and show love:
Parents did not have the time to express love and passion for every child at every minute of the day. Children were supposed to know parent’s “loved” them even-though the children didn’t feel like they did. Many children went throughout their entire life without ever remembering setting on their mother or father’s lap and feeling a true sincere love. This type love can harm a child’s soul for their entire life because they’ve never felt like they fit in anywhere or with any person. They never feel like they know what a true “love” actually is.
These children learn to “cope” in their daily life with a major factor missing. When children feel unloved, it’s despairing to the core of their heart and soul. They never have the feeling of knowing that nurturing thing called “love.” They take love as merely a form of parenting and they never get attached to feel close or bonded to an individual. They’ve never had an opportunity to feel loved or even wanted because it’s never been expressed to them.
Many parents do not know how to express or show their love because they never had a chance to connect with a “true love bond” either with their parents. When this happens, this same process is passed down through generations. Children who have lived with parents throughout their lives and a true “love” was never formed, the children probably “never” formed a “true love bond” with their siblings or with anyone else for that matter because they did not know how to express or show “love.”
*Stop and take time for your children:
It’s critical in a child’s life that they’re told they’re loved and expressions of love is displayed to them; children are not mind readers they cannot assume the parent loves them unless actions from the heart and soul are displayed to them. A parent cannot express their love through expensive gifts or utterances of, “I love you,” but they must show their children love by being interested in what they’re saying and doing and by participating in their daily activities.
Expressions of love can be expressed by tucking children into bed. a kiss on the forehead, tending to their fears, listening to their problems and expressions of total concern for them and their needs. Whispers of sweet special loving messages and allowing them to know the parent is there at all time for them and that they matter to them.
It’s important to tell your child you’re proud of them and how special they’re in your life and that life is wonderful because they’re in it.
*Summation:
Parents, it’s vital in a child’s life to express and show love to them at all times; a parent cannot be angry one minute and displaying a dislike and unhappiness to a child to turn around, and then say, “But you know, I love you.”
Barbara Kasey Smith is the author of this article – Copyright 2013 – Use by Permission Only.