Book:Bringing Up A Dream Child
ISBN: 9788178060354
Author: Juhi Aggarwal
Price: $5.00
Publisher: Unicorn Books
URL: http://www.pustakmahal.com/book/book/bid,,9213f/index.html
Parents, who come across exceptionally well-behaved and motivated children, sometimes wonder why their own offspring do not have such qualities. They cannot help thinking that somewhere along the line they were amiss in their own methods of upbringing.
The author’s experience over two decades in the field of education brought about the realization, that all parents are keen that their kids grow to be obedient, bright, honest, successful, and energetic.
However, few succeed to the extent they desire. Juhi Aggarwal set about trying to discover what was going wrong with the methods used by such parents, and why other parents could enjoy fruitful, life-long relationships with their satisfied children.
The first thing she noticed was that ‘There are no difficult children, there are difficult parents.’ It is parents who are largely responsible for how their children ultimately turn out to be.
Parents need to themselves decide what proper and improper behaviour really is, and to properly differentiate between right and wrong. Children ape their grown-ups, particularly parents.
She advises parents not to be too authoritarian, or too lenient. A subtle mix of democracy and firmness is needed…Discipline should not be a punishment. It should be a boundary guideline, which cannot be overstepped with impunity.
Parents, who take personal interest on a day-to-day basis, are able to spot behaviour changes early and take remedial measures.
Parents who are too busy with their business, professional or social activities cannot hope to enjoy good rapport with their kids. Particularly when the child is approaching the teens, and hormone changes are creating stress for the child’s personality, parents have to be on hand, and act as counselors and companions.
The author stresses habits which yield rich dividends-letting children enjoy privacy, reinforcing good behaviour, listening attentively to the child, having family meetings, discussing the consequences of behaviour, praising, establishing an atmosphere of trust, etc.
In short, it is a book every parent must read. Even if your child is a dream one, reading it may be your confidence booster that adequate attention has been given to the child.