NO FOR NO: YES FOR YES

                                    NO FOR NO: YES FOR YES

                                    BY ADETAYO ADEBAYO

“Positive mind do positive things, and negative mind lobby after negativity all the time” Time frame does not determine time factor, it is just a portion of the time. Parents without positive mind suffer setback to positive reasoning to their children or child, and lobby after the negativity truth. This can be difficult to believe because we all believe that we have positive mindset, but sometimes give negative respond to defend the positive things.

Then, we keep our lying form to time factor to cajole, lie or do other negative thing and we forget that kids learn within that time frame.

They get the idea in microseconds and we know not what we have committed. Actually, we are not suppose to love model life but try to be modesty in all doing to affect lives with positive thinking and deter the negative thinking.

For example, a mother who smoke in secret to avoid the baby or two years old child knew, she may forget to reason this way that child may be perceiving the odour or see her sometimes. Things we do count on ourselves. And it tells on our people, while environment show it.

My friend revealed to me in his self-finding that child reacted so much from their parent formal lives according to the hormone gene. It explained further that it is difficult for son not to do at least 50% of his father way of life. If father is a smoker, there is natural gene that will ginger at least one of three sons to smoke, even try to bypass the father stage. If father as well is very quiet, at least two of his offspring will quiet.  What we do follow us like ghost and it is difficult to completely scot-free from our past living because if you think well, you still find the traces in your children, either male and female child.

We have to start learning no for no: and yes for yes approach to help them up to avoid going to other side when we are already left the side for better living.  We have to sanitize ourselves to bring good home upbringing to them. Even, the hormone work later in their life, they can still think back to the good side.

‘No for No: Yes for Yes’ sound very raw and better approach to excite that must be employ. We have to let them realize what is wrong from what is right. No should be No: when you corrected your child from wrongdoing, make sure you do not found in doing such thing. Guide them with your “No” and don’t them to found you where their spirit will say ‘No’ in conclusion to you. Say ‘No’ and let them generally see it as ‘No’.

Stressful mother caution her fatty daughter from eaten chocolate to avoid more fat.

“Do not ever touch that chocolate, again. “Mother said, angrily. “She collected the secret jar of chocolate and took it away. Few minutes later, she went upstairs and light cigarette behind the close door. Her fat daughter struggled to climb the staircase to her room door.

“Mama! I can smell it! You took away my chocolate and you smoke your burning cigarette. You take away my satisfaction and you’re engaging in your own satisfaction”

Mama wanted to keep notion of No to chocolate but engaged in her supposed ‘No’ according to doctor prescription. She used ‘smell’ suppose “No’ to engage in her ‘big’ suppose ‘No’.

Then ‘yes for yes’ suppose to be real in positive manner. When you agreed with your child that it is right, do not try to condemn it afterward because you will grow a way ward child in that system. Say yes to what deserve yes and say no to what deserve no. It will sharpen your child mutuality against my friend proven.

We have to cultivate the habit and will grow our offspring to positive way against all odds. Even, if they encounter trouble in their way. They can easily sit down and final solution to their predicament. We have to live now for their glorious time. Time frame of every human being recorded something vital to one or two people, especially to your children, whose sees you as the best mirror.

We are all having fault in our hands, while not start amending it in case that learns from it without our knowledge. No matter how good or bad you’re, you’re a role model to someone. Beware of your ‘No’ and get your  ‘Yes’ right for the future count.