why does the society support what we’re supposed to do???
is it competition? fear of alienation? or just plain ‘go with the crowd’ philosophy?

not blaming any parents though…. they want the best for their kids all the time… but the sad part is they dont understand that what’s best for one may not be the best for another one.
I mean, how many parents can u spot allowing their kids to take up arts or honors courses unless he/she has a terrible academic record… finding a parent who readily gives consent for an academically bright student to take up arts coz he is very interested in Journalism is very very rare… every parent thinks CA/Engineering/MBBS/MBA is the only thing that makes their kid successful… and more often than not, this trickles down to the next generation… for many ppl, life stops if they dont have a ‘reputed’ degree and a 6-7 figure salary…
does success mean a 6-7 figure salary??
A guy thinks that if he has to go to his girlfriend’s dad and ask for her hand in marriage, does he have to earn that much? Who is setting the bar so high… its the society… coz though he’s earning a 5 figure salary, the dad knows another guy who earns a six fig…
and now the next one…
"Your daughter is 23 and not married? How come? Something wrong? Can we be of some help?" or
"He works in abcd company? in India? U know i know an NRI living in the US who earns thrice as much… i can arrange a meeting if u want"
"What!! Love marriage? Does she know what she’s talking about? Why dont you stop her… she’s too young to make these decisions"
duh!!! why cant a neighbour or an aunt just leave this alone? i mean its the girl’s and her folk’s problem when she’ll marry, whom she’ll marry. Who in the bloody hell is someone else to question this? if they dont have better engagements, i think its better to pick up a hobby… knitting, gardening, etc rather than gossipping all day and night about the neighbour’s or a relative’s son/daughter’s current and future marital status… coz, when the parent hears these comments, its natural to move the train of thought to "i think this is the right time to get her married" or
"she’ll be happier with a guy who’s working in the US and earning much more than this guy she’s in love with" or
"what does she know about love and all that. I know wats best for her"
Its not bad for a parent to wish the best for his kid… but wat about their interests, aspirations, etc…
Neighbours come and neighbours go… relatives come and relatives go… what matters at the end is the happiness of the son/daughter… whether its about marriage or about career… advice is ok… but when the advice becomes a force, thats when problems arise… everyone doesnt know the best for everyone else… they just seem to…

Why does the society support what we’re supposed to do???
is it competition? fear of alienation? or just plain ‘go with the crowd’ philosophy?

not blaming any parents though…. they want the best for their kids all the time… but the sad part is they dont understand that what’s best for one may not be the best for another one.
I mean, how many parents can u spot allowing their kids to take up arts or honors courses unless he/she has a terrible academic record… finding a parent who readily gives consent for an academically bright student to take up arts coz he is very interested in Journalism is very very rare… every parent thinks CA/Engineering/MBBS/MBA is the only thing that makes their kid successful… and more often than not, this trickles down to the next generation… for many ppl, life stops if they dont have a ‘reputed’ degree and a 6-7 figure salary…
does success mean a 6-7 figure salary??
A guy thinks that if he has to go to his girlfriend’s dad and ask for her hand in marriage, does he have to earn that much? Who is setting the bar so high… its the society… coz though he’s earning a 5 figure salary, the dad knows another guy who earns a six fig…
and now the next one…
“Your daughter is 23 and not married? How come? Something wrong? Can we be of some help?” or
“He works in abcd company? in India? U know i know an NRI living in the US who earns thrice as much… i can arrange a meeting if u want”
“What!! Love marriage? Does she know what she’s talking about? Why dont you stop her… she’s too young to make these decisions”
duh!!! why cant a neighbour or an aunt just leave this alone? i mean its the girl’s and her folk’s problem when she’ll marry, whom she’ll marry. Who in the bloody hell is someone else to question this? if they dont have better engagements, i think its better to pick up a hobby… knitting, gardening, etc rather than gossipping all day and night about the neighbour’s or a relative’s son/daughter’s current and future marital status… coz, when the parent hears these comments, its natural to move the train of thought to “i think this is the right time to get her married” or
“she’ll be happier with a guy who’s working in the US and earning much more than this guy she’s in love with” or
“what does she know about love and all that. I know wats best for her”
Its not bad for a parent to wish the best for his kid… but wat about their interests, aspirations, etc…
Neighbours come and neighbours go… relatives come and relatives go… what matters at the end is the happiness of the son/daughter… whether its about marriage or about career… advice is ok… but when the advice becomes a force, thats when problems arise… everyone doesnt know the best for everyone else… they just seem to…