The business of successful parenting involves practical solutions for parents, tips for improving communication, building positive relationships and other useful parenting skills in order to develop children’s self-discipline and help them become the winners they were meant to be.
To become a "manager of his child’s temperament’, a successful parent must have an emotionally "neutral" stance, by thinking rationally, rather than become emotionally embroiled in his child temperamental difficulties. The adult needs to learn the difference between the temperamentally determined behavior and that which is learned, deliberately manipulative.
Understanding and improving the child’s attitude and habits represents a major step regarding his self- esteem positive development.
There are several parenting strategies for very intense children and parenting strategies for slow-to-adapt children.The children’s personality will develop itself as a reaction to the environment and a response to the way they are perceived by the others.
Doctors Chess and Thomas have provided as a result of their research, information regarding 9 temperamental traits, that every parent should learn to identify and improve:
–Activity level: represents the "idle speed or how active the child is generally”;
–Distractibility;
–Intensity;
–Regularity: involves the habits of the child regarding his predictability of biological functions such as eating, sleeping;
–Sensory Threshold: the degree of sensibility manifested as a result to the exterior;
–Approach/Withdrawal;
–Adaptability;
–Persistence:the way in which a child perceives the obstacles during a certain activity;
–Mood:the tendency of a child’s reaction to be mostly positive or negative;
Helping Your Child Develop Self-Esteem
The development of a positive self-concept plays a major role for the success of children and teenagers, by helping them act independently, assume a responsibility, take pride in his accomplishments, attempt new tasks and challenges, handle properly his positive and negative emotions.
Parents have the duty to promote their child’s self-esteem by encouraging him throw positive statements, being generous with praise, teaching him to practice making positive self-statements, avoiding criticism that takes the form of ridicule or shame, discussing about decision-making and to recognize when he has made a good decision, developing a positive approach to provide an appropriate structure.
A successful parent will teach his children to change his demands to preferences, encourage him to ask for what he want assertively, pointing out that there is no guarantee that he will get it, teach him to be responsible for any feeling he experience and, mainly,encourage him to develop hobbies and interests which give him pleasure and which he can pursue independently.
A good parent will never forget that a child brings hope and joy into this world and that he must be a model for his little one.