Diana, Princess of Wales was someone the entire world looked at and had their eyes on since she emerged on the scene when she was the shy 19 year old as Lady Diana Spencer, but upon her July 1981 marriage to Prince Charles she came away with the title(s) HRH, The Princess of Wales, Countess of Chester, Duchess of Cornwall(the title Charles’ second wife Camilla currently holds), Duchess of Rothesay, Countess of Carrick, Baroness of Renfrew, Lady of the Isles, and Princess of Scotland.
She was destined to be a person people came to love and as those who knew her described her as someone who loved life and loved people and supporting the causes that meant something to her. It seemed that she was dealt a lot of blows from the royal family since a lot of the problems and issues they weren’t accustomed to dealing with issues surrounding depression, eating disorders, and sheer unhappiness it was about serving the kingdom and your subjects when Diana wasn’t that kind of person to be the stiff upper-lipped, bound to every inch of tradition. Diana was a person of virtue and a woman of true substance. She was a person who loved learning about people and exposing herself to things that fascinated her.
Unlike Prince Charles who lived his life surrounded by servants and infrequent contacts with his mother who was gone most of the time so he really saw little of her which explains his subtle distant behavior. Diana pretty much knew what her position in the royal family was and that was to produce heirs since Charles admitted in a televised interview that he didn’t love Diana, but had loved a woman named Camilla Parker-Bowles who he had carried on a decades long affair with. Originally Charles wanted to marry Camilla, but the deal was that she’s Catholic since every member of the royal family had been Protestant since the days of Elizabeth I.
The sad thing is that Camilla is also the great, great-granddaughter of Alice Keppell who was the mistress of Queen Victoria’s eldest son who was also the Prince of Wales at that time so essentially being a whore ran in the family and yet Camilla has mentioned it on several occasions as if that’s going to win over well with people since she clearly inherited the niche for sleeping with men who are married. She waited 30 years and a lot of time on her back to get the ring and the title and she’s well aware that she’ll never be Queen since she divorced her husband to marry Prince Charles and in the royal family divorce is a black mark.
It wasn’t too much of a black mark because Diana moved on and began loving someone else who’s not a typical white English man. That’s what made Diana stand out was her ability to open her heart to loving someone who wasn’t of the same ethnic background even though her choice of men was questionable since some of them were in fact married. It wasn’t what she did that made people frown upon her she did things the royal family wouldn’t dare step out of their stuffy traditional-laced world to do since they claim they were in touch with the people when their actions said otherwise.
Diana was doing everything from shaking hands with people who had AIDS to holding and hugging victims of landmine accidents-this was something the royal family shied away from which was having a more personal approach and they’re so steeped into tradition that on the day of Diana’s funeral the country felt that the royal family truly saw Diana’s influential role, but what time had done for Diana was shape her into a remarkable human being with qualities the royal family would never have which is character and charm.
The Queen and the rest of the family are all a bunch of works since none of them really cared for Diana and constantly called her ‘problematic’ the problem with the Queen was that if there was a problem all they had to do was pay someone to fix it and that clearly showed you their inability to solve their own problems and address issues.
They thought that telling the media to back off Diana would help with some of her issues when in fact her biggest issue was that she had a husband who rejected her that’s what was the root of her anger and eating disorders. Diana had began to feel that her husband didn’t want to be bothered with her and it was pretty often that he was like this and mostly spending his time with Camilla and in some ways this may have been the wedge that finally dislodged her own marriage since the world knows that Andrew Parker Bowles had eventually divorced Camilla because you can only turn away for so long before you have to completely address the truth for what it really is.
Had Diana lived I think she and Andrew Parker Bowles would have sat down and talked about their respective marriages to two highly selfish and self-serving individuals who weren’t concerned with much except their dirty sex life which was evident by how Charles was quoted to saying how he wished he was the tampon that was inside of her and how Camilla wanted to live inside his trousers. We all know Diana had her moments, but she wasn’t that openly graphic with her sex life and when she started dating Dodi Fayed she maintained a private love affair that she never discussed publicly and in a lot of ways she wanted it that way.
Who could blame her? Most celebrities are longing for that sense of anonymity where they can stroll anywhere in the world and not be recognized. Diana wanted to be a normal woman who fell in love with someone who truly cared for her despite having a royal title, yet Dodi was a playboy so he was busy running amok spending his daddy’s money (Daddy owned Harrod’s department store in Knightsbridge-an area of London where the rich and wealthy live and shop) and not really doing much to solidify himself into something steady like a marriage and a career.
Yet Diana was smitten by him even though the press made numerous attempts to publish things about Dodi’s past which would make any woman want to turn the other way and run despite him coming from money. Just like they published things about how Dodi had a separate boat when he was vacationing with his father and family in Sardinia to put his current girlfriend on, but had Diana on the boat with his family and to essentially keeping this woman separate from his family.
There’s a book that was released that gives people some further insight to the relationship between Dodi and Diana titled ‘Diana and Dodi :A Love Story’ written by Dodi’s former butler Rene Delorm and co-written with Barry Fox and Nadine Taylor. It was the only true account of the relationship between Dodi and Diana where he gave you unprecedented access to what the media would have paid large sums of money to know what this man knew about the relationship. Originally Delorm’s former job was a VIP waiter at Wolfgang Puck’s Hollywood restaurant Spago’s and he wound up working for Dodi for seven years as his personal butler and assistant in the United States and Europe.
It was he who revealed that Dodi planned to propose to Diana since recollections were made about Dodi selecting two exquisite diamond rings so he could decide on which one to buy for when he proposed to Diana which was to happen that night since he told Rene to have champagne chilled on the ready when he returned with the Princess to his apartment. It even contains photos of Delorm aboard the yacht Diana and Dodi sailed on during their trysts in the Mediterranean and during the times that paparazzi would chase them down on the boat for a chance at snapping photos of them together.
This is what Diana accomplished to trim down any chance of the photographers to catch them together in a photo which would be worth lots of money and some publications that were willing to pay several thousands to a couple million dollars for that one single or a series of photos of Diana and Dodi together. Diana left a mark in the world not just for her string of lovers, but for the charities and her humanitarian efforts that she tirelessly supported. It never really dawned on anyone that Diana out did the royal family simply by being a person who loved and was capable of giving love. Queen Elizabeth was so busy being a Queen she had little time to spend with her children.
So they’ve spend the majority of their life in the care of servants and nannies so they weren’t really raised to show emotion and to really feel a strong connection to people. When you read about Diana’s struggles with her anxiety and her eating disorders she was suffering the same problems people in everyday life dealt with, but she had the courage to address issues openly and publicly rather than tucking them away in a closet and paying someone to deal with it the way the royal family dealt with their problems. What made Diana special was the countless people who met her and those who didn’t who were touched and inspired by her genuine sense of love and caring she gave to those who were less fortunate. Countless books were written about her that flew off shelves as fast as they could stock them telling unique stories about the Princess when she was growing up and how her father expected her to be a boy because he had two daughters before Diana and wanted a son to inherit his title.
Diana felt that rejection from her father as well even though he wasn’t in the best of health when he walked her down the aisle for her wedding to Prince Charles. That’s a hard thing to take when you’re rejected by a parent who wanted you to be a boy, and a husband who rejected you and admitted later that he never loved you. That alone can break a person down. That’s where Diana had her eating disorders because of the stress of having to continue living with the constant reminder of your father rejecting you because you weren’t born the gender he wanted and married to someone who only saw the marriage as an obligation to produce heirs.
Yet through it all Diana had risen to the occasion with her charm and wit and the ability to make a lot of people happy. Endless people who knew her and met her have said she always greeted everyone with a hug and kind words. Many world leaders had considered her a integral part of society to bringing awareness and charity efforts to causes that were getting little attention like landmines because in many foreign countries where landmines were a commonly used item among the military, but they were placing these in along routes near villages and many innocent people were getting physically maimed and even killed just for walking in a field unaware that a mine was placed there.
Diana made it her mission to bring awareness of this problem to many humanitarian efforts which has paid off because a lot more causes that weren’t getting the attention it needed because when Diana sat on the board of a charity that she was a patron for the cause generated a lot more money towards it’s purpose which was to help the people who were affected by disease or violence. This was something that the British Royal Family lacked in a lot of areas because they seem to use all their charity appearances for photo ops to get people to see that they’re not out of touch with the people.
Yet in Diana’s words they were because of how they just don’t connect well with the less fortunate, you’ll see members of other royal families not afraid to get their hands dirty and to get down with a little messiness, but you never see Prince Charles ever getting his hands dirty. Diana sure proved them wrong by going out there in the landmine fields wearing a facemask and a bulletproof vest to protect herself from flying shrapnel. This woman wasn’t afraid to make a statement by standing in a landmine field or sitting with a group of people who were affected by the landmines in their villages. Diana had a quality heart and a quality character about her that made her a phenomenal individual of her time. Diana loved everyone she came into contact with and those who never met her loved her for her unconditional and unfaltered spirit.
She could brighten a room with her smile and her grace and she wasn’t afraid to touch those who were stricken with diseases. If she could hug someone with AIDS she took a step that most of the members of the British royal family don’t have the decency to do. She wasn’t afraid to take risks and to try new things and one of those was falling in love with someone who actually cared for her versus continuing to subject herself to loveless relationships and being involved with men who didn’t really have her best interest. She wanted to have a life to call her own and the media was too engrossed in trying to get that one critical photo of her in an intimate moment with Dodi. Diana’s presence made a difference in Dodi’s life because he was the son of a wealthy Egyptian businessman and had a notorious reputation for being a huge player in high European social outlets.
It was that brief moment that Dodi found his better half in Diana when he had planned to propose to her with a ring valued at $200,000. Diana having been just fresh from a divorce the previous year had little time to really consider a second marriage since she was just getting used to her life as a newly single woman getting used to the dating game as a normal person and not having her courtships arranged like when she was 19 years old marrying someone of 32 for the sole purpose of producing heirs. This was the first time she was starting to learn about love the way a normal relationship flourishes on. We’ll never know what would have come of that love that was special to only Diana and Dodi and they protected it like it was a valuable piece of jewelry.
Yet we all knew it was clear that they adored each other and we all wanted to see a fairy tale ending to a woman who had been through the fire and truly rose to the occasion by finally finding love with someone who wasn’t married and who wasn’t looking to cash in from her fame. Diana inspired a lot of people and her love spread over an entire planet from England to Australia she was loved by many people from every racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic background, and that’s a quality nobody can ever replace she brandished the magic of helping those less fortunate and taking risks and learning to live with a laugh and a sense of humor that became legendary. There will never be another person like Diana.
For the British royal family to call Diana ‘unstable’ just further addresses their inability to deal with everyday problems that make many of us human. The undaunting kindness of Diana will live in the hearts of everyone she touched always and she raised two good sons who loved their mother very much and have turned out to be two very well-adjusted, mature young men and that’s because her goal was to raise them in as a normal of an upbringing. William and Harry couldn’t ask for a greater person they’re proud to call their mother. It was her love and devotion that inspires them to be even greater individuals and this will even help them be a more hands on parent when they marry and have children of their own.
Diana gave William and Harry a sense of purpose and they learned to get their hands dirty to better the lives of others. Their mother didnt have no qualms about getting hers dirty at all. Diana gave star power a whole new meaning. Like her brother Charles said eulogizing his sister she carried that special magic that has no title and that it was irreplaceable. Earl Specer was right because that magic was irreplaceable and so is the love that Diana found in Dodi in the time they had together that was probably the one chance Diana truly felt happy and cared for and he protected her from the reporters since he knew they wouldnt stop chasing her wherever she went.