When Dating Someone Becomes Addictive

When Dating Someone Becomes Addictive

Let’s face it, dating is an art. Think about it, no two people act in the same predictive way, and no two people think or have the same expectations in their romantic life. However, if we want to make sure we are bonding with the right person, there are patterns which we can easily spot right from the beginning.

Chemistry, and the Big Role it Plays when Mating

It is well known that chemistry has the power to take us over. Under its influence, we can easily change ourselves in order to accommodate someone else. The reason why most people are set to lose their heads over a love spell is because, when the hormones kick in, for the most part, our guard is already down. So who is to blame for this explosion that takes place? Or, for the ecstasy and the promises that a new romance offers?  

The problem with chemistry itself lies in the fact that its power does have an expiration date. If you base your ‘relationship’ with a stranger by the physical attraction you both share, you might end up paying the price of being hooked to an addiction. You are in fact just addicted to the sexual experiences that he or she has to offer. You might think you want more from them but, in reality, you are only seeking that feeling of gratification that they provide you with. Unfortunately, that dopamine rush you are craving, will hit rock bottom with the same intensity it did when it sky-rocketed. Sooner or later, you will collapse under the power of chemistry.   

It is no coincidence that relationships and marriages end up falling apart within the first 3 to 5 years. What are the factors responsible for this phenomenon, and what is the story behind this myth? Well, the Universe is wise enough to provide us with the euphoria and physical passion for another human being for at least 3 years. After that, if your relationship hasn’t worked out and if you haven’t yet seen the other person for whom they really are, you will then have to face the harsh reality that you were only addicted to the dopamine.

So, How can Sex Glue us Together?

Sex itself is a fun experience. It allows us to physically connect with someone. Sex can also be described as an act that is just goal orientated. However, let us be mature enough and not confuse love with sex. We are so prone to take our clothes off with a total stranger and call that love, without quite understanding what love really is. Love is not something we can force upon someone we hardly even know, and expect them to light up our world. Real love can only happen when we make that extra effort to get to know someone for whom they are; a process that takes time. If you are aware of their shortcomings, have seen their bad moods and imperfections, and you have still decided to invest in them, then please continue with the relationship if you are willing to put sex aside.

Let’s not forget that anticipation weighs more than consummation, and if you delay your gratification, you might get the chance to make love and also have sex with an imperfect human being. However, if on the other hand, you are looking for the ecstasy and passion of the moment, then enjoy the fun for what it is, but don’t come around asking for emotional support, since you did not give the relationship time and allow it to mature.