What happens when after having been dating a guy for whatever period of time, he pulls back and stops calling you. For instance lets say you haven’t heard from him in a couple of days.
What would be the right thing for you to do? In my experience with men and I am sure you are going to agree with me, when a guy stops contacting me, I start freaking out! I start to think that maybe he doesn’t really like me or he might have found someone else or maybe something has happened to him, like an accident.
I would never think for a moment that maybe he has taken some time apart from me to digest the experience he just had. On many occasions I have found myself going after him. Thinking that maybe it is ok if I make the first move. Unfortunately, what I have found is that 95% of the time after chasing him, he will keep repeating same pattern for a prolonged period.
Finally after all my mistakes, I have learned that in order to have a man be interested in you, he needs the space to be free – he needs to be able to think things out. If in the process of him doing this, we chase him around, he will not have much to think about and he will automatically make up his mind that maybe we are not right for him.
Some women, on the contrary, will start to play games when a man pulls back. She will pretend to be more busy than she really is or will not take his calls when he comes around. For those women who think that a man will be more interested in you if you play with him or you try to torture him, I have some news: He will know your game right away and he will just start playing you right back.
So what is the solution to the conflict of having to deal with a mans need to pull back? Simply give him the space he needs, don’t take it personally, don’t question his behavior, don’t have an attitude with him. He will start wondering why his tricks are not working for him. He will be wondering what is different about you when you don’t act out like most women do. If you pass the test and show him that you can be rational while being emotional, he will start looking at you as an equal, he will be thinking of you as a keeper. He will be able to see your integrity. He will be turned on by seeing you standing your ground, then he might consider coming your way to fulfill your needs, since you have shown him that you are not afraid to lose him.
Trust me, i have helped a lot of women to get it right with their guys.
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